We all like to think of ourselves as even-tempered people; well-balanced ,equable in all things and well in control of ourselves. This gives rise to the incorrect beilef that our day-to-day mood is consistant - that we keep to an even emotional tenor in all our ways. This is not so.

Our feelings follow a cyclical pattern - a little up , a little down; small variations from moment to moment, from hour to hour, from day to day. This follows the paterns of other bodily functions such as tempreature and level of chemicals in the blood. This Variabilty  is based on what are known as circadian rhythms - twenty four hour cycles of activity which are perhaps related to the alternation of the hours of light and the hours of darkness. As daylight comes and goes so does our 'mood' ; the sum total of all our feelings at a given time. These feelings, the good and the bad, combine to give us a general feeling of well-being or of apprehension.

We talk colloquially of our mood going up and down. Depression happens when our mood is down. There are a number of slang phrases used to describe this feelingof 'downess': fed up,  browned off, cheesed off, the downsin the dumps, the blues, the gloomst ,the miseries, feeling low, at a low ebb, lifeless, flat and so on.

The word depression, when applied to a state of mood, shares with all these colloquial woprds and phrases a sense of being down in spirit,low in energy, having a senseof loss, hopelessness and uselessness. It implies apathy and pessimism. The opposite mood would be typifide by enthusiasm, joy, hopefulness and optimism.

A depressed mood very often comes on after disappointment, or a sense of having lost something, but often it can come out of the blue, apparently spontaneously. Some people are more prone to this apparently spontaneous shift of mood and are said to be cyclothymic. I say apparently spontaneous because clinical experience with patients shows that there is nearly always a preceding cause for a mood change, but the person experiencing it is not always aware of the cause. as the person talks with the doctor, he will become aware of events that have, as it were, triggered off the mood change. A few patients vigorously deny this, but they can be shown to be avoiding a situation or occurrence which has been particularly painful or embarrassing to them.

In this sense of having a depressed mood, we all get depressed. It can occur on its own, but is often accompanied by another feeling-anxiety. This is an unpleasant feeling of anticipated disturbance. The very fact of becoming depressed, of itself, can spark off anxiety in susceptible people; in others, depression arises in conjunction with anxiety or is initated by it.

Depression as an Experience

Moods arise out of all kinds of experiences. An experience inevitably linked to a depressed mood is that of feeling devalued and losing a sense of being appreciated, or being loved as a person. This sense of loss itself is often called depression, as well as the mood of depression to which the feeling of loss can lead. 

As well as a depressed mood , this experience of losing something valuable can be assosiated with feelings of frustration and resentment. When we are depressed we often want to be quite and keep to ourselves: when we are frustrated or resentful we want to attack the object of our frustration and resentment. A mixture of depression with anxiety , frustration and resentment are the ingredients of a very disturbing state called agitation. Obviously it disturbs the person suffering from it and it also disturbs those who see that the person is agitated - like many extreme moods,aspects of this experience are socially infectious. 

Depression by Ross Mitchell

Post Traumatic Stress

If you have had a traumatic experience in your life, you could benifit from NLP, Hypnotherapy and CBT.

Any distressing incident that is out of the ordainary patern of your daily events can be classed as truamatic.

Bereavment, bad accidents, personal attacks, horrific disasters, robbery, muggins can cause traumatic stress. Can you identify with any of these symptoms? feelings of Deppression, Anxiety, being Detached, Nerviousness, Fright, Dread,Strange, Tense, Edgey. Difficulty with our thoughts, having Flashbacks, finding it hard to Concentrate, Anger,Regret, Poor self esteem, Worry,Self blame, Shame

Re-experiencing the trauma in your mind in the form of flashbacks, pictures in your mind, dreams and reliving the event tend to give you strong unwanted sensations,feelings of distress, panic, heart beating fast, dizziness and saddness.Feelings in your body like Panic, Aching, light headedness, Tension, a Pounding of the heart, exhaustion Sleeplessness.

Through our behaviour, relationships suffer, we drink and smoke more, we can't relax, we find it difficult to consentrate, make bad judgments.

Trauma leaves deep emotional scars.

Our beliefs of how life should happen are shattered and in place of life being safe and secure we now feel like we are living on borrowed time. We avoid people and places that remind us of what happened to us, losing intrest in life.

Hypnosis, NLP can help

Hypnosis is a peaceful, pleasant state of total relaxation and heightened awareness. It is the process of allowing yourself access to the abilities of the unconscious mind. The unconscious is the most dominant part of your mind. It is nature's complex computer that stores every feeling, event and idea you have ever heard, seen or felt in your entire life.

The unconscious acts the way it has been programmed to act, just like a computer does. Unfortunately much of this programming occurred before we were old enough to choose between ideas that were helpful, and those that were not. Hypnosis is the key to the mind. As you enter the hypnotic state your senses become more acute, your concentration becomes more focused on the positive changes that you want, and your unconscious mind becomes more open to suggestions.

Hypnotherapy can make positive changes in the physical response and mental and emotional attitude, and change ingrained habits. Hypnotherapy is not dangerous. You yourself naturally engage your unconscious mind every day. Hypnosis does not cause you to lose control; you cannot be made to say or do anything against your will or better judgement. Hypnosis is not a unconscious sleep state. You will be able to speak to answer questions and to recall events that you may have forgotten by your conscious mind. You will remember everything you see or think whilst in Hypnosis.

(NLP) Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Life Coaching NLP based are based on the principle that all behaviour has structure, and this structure can be identified learned and adapted to create positive outcomes. This is a methodology for modelling excellence and is a highly effective way of creating change and achieving goals. NLP explores the relationships between the way we think (Neuro), the way we communicate (Linguistic) and our patterns of behaviour (Programming). It was created by John Grinder and Richard Bandler in the early 1970's, and these NLP processes have been continually refined and updated ever since.

 NLP is first and foremost is about taking action. It is the structure of subjective experience and a model of communication. NLP allows you to unlock and use your mind's potential, allowing you to change your mind and keep this change. Andrew Nelson has trained with Richard Bandler and Paul Mckenna and is certificated to practice NLP.

Master your emotions, change your mind - and keep the change. In a variety of situations you can gain confidence and motivation, banishing unwanted behaviours and waving goodbye to fears and phobias. Learn how the greats communicate. Find your true potential. Have better relationships

Whatever the problem,  come to the people who care. Life coaching for: work life balance, self confidence, career change, presentation skills, rapport building, good relationships, stress management and more.

Headstrong solutions is a central Manchester based Life coaching practice, working with clients to gain clarity with difficult problems, and  helping to achieve excellence and happiness in their personal and professional life. We specialise in stress reduction leading to improvment in personal  wellbeing. Through one to one coaching face to face or by telephone and in complete confidence we provide clients with the opportunity to dicuss their personal issues, helping them to rise above challenges, problems and obstacles and moving toward what you really want in life

Personalised and Customised NLP/Hypnotherapy CDs

For those clients who are not located in the areas we serve, or there are no experienced hypnotherapists in your area, we offer a quick, confidential and safe personalized NLP/hypnotherapy CD treatment plan with a monitoring service for you.  Although mas produced hypnotherapy CD's are now available and have their uses, one size does not fit all people's needs.

Why Personalized CD's are so effective.

We discuss with you by  phone (30 minutes) or email your particular concerns, just as we would face to face, and then create your own personalized CD together.

By listening regularly in your own surroundings and in a relaxed state to the posititve and motivational suggestions given to you, the subconcious mind takes the information in, and positive changes occur.

So by listening again and again to suggestions that are tailor made to be positive and motivational for you the suggestions become permanently accepted.

Monitoring service.

As we care that the service we provide is effective, quick and safe, and we like to monitor the progress of our clients, a monitoring service is available which we would be happy for you to use either by telephone or email, where we discuss your progress and changes requested by you could be made.

Some of the treatments we can help with are listed below:

The fee for your personalized CD is £55 which includes postage and packaging.

For your free initial consultation please email us on andrewbknelson@hotmail.com or call or text  on 07710154 513

Payment methods: credit and debit cards accepted by telephone, or cheques can be made payable to 'Andrew Nelson' and posted to, Headstrong Solutions, Gainsbrough House, 109 Portland Street, Manchester. M1 6DN.

What ever the problem, come to the people who care.

Everyone who suffers from stress or anger issues has different reasons for their problems. These may be historical (e.g. Post Traumatic Stress), relationship problems, work, abuse, a combination of these or a very individual reason. We find it best to treat each case individually, rather than with a "conveyor belt" approach

For those clients who are not located in the areas we serve, or there are no experienced hypnotherapists in your area, we offer a quick, confidential and safe personalized NLP/hypnotherapy CD treatment plan with a monitoring service for you.  Although mas produced hypnotherapy CD's are now available and have their uses, one size does not fit all people's needs.

Why Personalized CD's are so effective.

We discuss with you by  phone (30 minutes) or email your particular concerns, just as we would face to face, and then create your own personalized CD together.

By listening regularly in your own surroundings and in a relaxed state to the posititve and motivational suggestions given to you, the subconcious mind takes the information in, and positive changes occur.

So by listening again and again to suggestions that are tailor made to be positive and motivational for you the suggestions become permanently accepted.

Monitoring service.

As we care that the service we provide is effective, quick and safe, and we like to monitor the progress of our clients, a monitoring service is available which we would be happy for you to use either by telephone or email, where we discuss your progress and changes requested by you could be made.

Some of the treatments we can help with are listed below:

The fee for your personalized CD is £55 which includes postage and packaging. Payment methods: credit and debit cards accepted by telephone, or cheques can be made payable to 'Andrew Nelson' and posted to, Headstrong Solutions, Gainsbrough House, 109 Portland Street, Manchester. M1 6DN.

   Copyright: Colin G Smith
    http://www.NLPToolBox.com
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We all want to get along better with others. Sometimes it
just feels so damn awkward with certain people though!
Wouldn't it be great if we knew simple principles that
enabled us to experience more satisfying relationships.

The following Top Ten Tips offer you some simple advice that
you can begin to apply right now.


1. Remember that however unreasonable someone is acting
their behaviour is derived from a positive intention. When
you 'act as if' all behaviour has a positive intention
behind it, through discovering it, your life will become
more pleasant. An example: You meet an angry person and you
think how childish and silly they are. But if you were to
ask yourself, "what is the positive intention behind this
persons angry behaviour?", you could come up with something
useful that allows you to feel more comfortable. For
instance people often act angry because behind this they
believe it will protect them from harm.

2. When you find yourself feeling uncomfortable in an
interaction 'get some perspective' by disassociating. In
your minds eye see yourself and the other person interacting
over there, rather like you would if you were to see a movie
of the situation.

3. Step into their shoes. This is one of the most powerful
methods for gaining wisdom about your relationships. To
begin you imagine communicating with the other person,
noticing how they talk, observe their facial expressions and
so on. You then 'step into their shoes' and see through
their eyes and hear through their ears. So of course you
will be looking at yourself! Run through a conversation
you've had before that could of been better. Notice
'yourself' and become aware of how seeing things from this
other persons perspective gives you knew insights into the
relationship. This method is described in more detail in my
free mini-course.

4. What assumptions are you making about the other person?
Are you willing to challenge those assumptions? Pick one.
What is the opposite of that? Eg) Narrow minded/Open minded.
Now imagine interacting with the person with this new
attitude.

5. Step into the 'WE' frame: Think about a person you want
to get along with better. Disassociate: Picture both of you
interacting in your minds eye. Now allow yourself to find a
common purpose between the two of you. Of course if you
can't come up with anything you can always fall back on the
fact that you are just two human beings who are trying to
experience more happiness.

6. 'Funify' your boss (or that irritating colleague): Many
people experience difficulties communicating with their
boss. It's often due to being too serious. So here is a
simple, quick way to inject the antidote: FUN! Ok, picture
your boss or whoever. And then notice their facial features.
What stands out? Is it their nose, their eyes, eye brows,
chin? Now you simply exaggerate those features rather like a
caricature cartoonist does. Exaggerate and 'funify' it in
such a way that it makes you laugh or at least feel better
towards the relationship.

7. No Failure, Only Feedback (or Learning Experiences.) A
really useful way to make beneficial changes is to view
everything as a learning experience. So thinking about a
relationship you find challenging, notice how you usually
respond to the person and then ask yourself, "How else could
I respond?" How many different ways could you respond in
your interactions? Come up with at least 3 possibilities.
This enables your mind to generate more flexibility of
behaviour.

8. Often when we experience difficulties in our
relationships it is due to focusing on faults. This distorts
our perception of the overall relationship, which is really
a mixture of good and bad qualities. To re-focus our
attention on the bigger picture begin to remember qualities
you admire in the other person. Come up with three, picture
them, increase the size of the images and place them around
an image of the 'faulty' qualities of the person. And
remember positive intention, take a look at Tip 1 again!

9. What would be the consequence of staying stuck in the
same relationship dynamic with a particular person, say 25
years from now?! The fact is if you want to experience
better relationships YOU are going to have to change your
viewpoints or attitude. It's OK, this can be fairly simple.
Imagine stepping into the future 25 years from now and look
back at that relationship and notice that it has remained in
the same stuck pattern year after year for 25 years! Looking
at it like this, acting as if it could really happen, allow
your feelings to arise that make you say, "enough is enough
I MUST change!"

10. Think of someone you would like to get along with
better. Choose someone of medium level "problematic-ness"
and then read the follow questions slowly: Isn't it true
that all of the problems that we experience when relating to
others is due to OUR feelings? What if we were to change our
feelings? This could make things easier didn't it?


If you want to experience more satisfying relationships you
are going to have to gain some new perspectives. Applying
one or more of the methods above will help you achieve this
more easily!

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Author Bio:
Colin G Smith is a licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-
Linguistic Programming (NLP) and author of 'The NLP
ToolBox', a personal development book that enables the
reader to master any area of their life with amazing speed.
Complete information on Colin G Smith's books are available
at his website, including a FREE personal development mini-
course.
http://www.NLPToolBox.com
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. .Personalised and Customised NLP/Hypnotherapy CDs  Stress, Anxiety, Anger

For those clients who are not located in the areas we serve, or there are no experienced hypnotherapists in your area, we offer a quick, confidential and safe personalized NLP/hypnotherapy CD treatment plan with a monitoring service for you.  Although mas produced hypnotherapy CD's are now available and have their uses, one size does not fit all people's needs.

Why Personalized CD's are so effective.

We discuss with you by  phone (30 minutes) or email your particular concerns, just as we would face to face, and then create your own personalized CD together.

By listening regularly in your own surroundings and in a relaxed state to the posititve and motivational suggestions given to you, the subconcious mind takes the information in, and positive changes occur.

So by listening again and again to suggestions that are tailor made to be positive and motivational for you the suggestions become permanently accepted.

Monitoring service.

As we care that the service we provide is effective, quick and safe, and we like to monitor the progress of our clients, a monitoring service is available which we would be happy for you to use either by telephone or email, where we discuss your progress and changes requested by you could be made.

Some of the treatments we can help with are listed below:

The fee for your personalized CD is £55 which includes postage and packaging.

The fee for a one to one NLP\hypnotherapy session is £95 for over an hour.

Payment methods: credit and debit cards accepted by telephone, or cheques can be made payable to 'Andrew Nelson' and posted to, Headstrong Solutions, Gainsbrough House, 109 Portland Street, Manchester. M1 6DN.